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#51 Bill H

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 1:26 AM

1.  Vasectomies are not always certain.

2.  How would they know you had one if you didn't tell them?

3.  What's the harm in trying?

 

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 1:37 AM

1.  Vasectomies are not always certain.

2.  How would they know you had one if you didn't tell them?

3.  What's the harm in trying?

 

Just sayin'

 

I could. But, the main reason I would even do that, would be to get him a US Passport. I wanted to do that when she came here. But, she screwed it all up by getting mad and doing what she always does - went home not caring about Quinn. Her exact words were, "No, I don't care. I just want to take Quinn home." That is when I should have taken his passport from her until we could have sorted his citizenship. But, I didn't feel right doing it, no matter how fucked up her thinking was at the time. 


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Posted 25 August 2014 - 3:25 AM

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This is a very serious topic for me. I am truly concerned about her safety now, more than ever.
I am talking about Quinn's mom, here. The mother of my little boy.


I think it would help if you explain exactly what kind of safety concerns you have?
For example...
There are some extreme Islamists out there, making headlines, but it seems she is not involved with any such group.
Women can be treated harshly sometimes in Islamic countries.. But don't forget, many women are treated terrible in the Philippines also. She may still be safer in a relatively more prosperous place.
If she is in Saudi Arabia, fitting in might not be such a bad thing. Say, if she put on a burka, she would fit in and potentially be safer than if strolling around in a miniskirt, drawing a lot of attention.
If she wants to get married, it is what it is, and you'd need to accept that regardless where she is. I don't think religion matters a whole lot in that case.
Again, maybe if you'd clarify your concern, it can be addressed.

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Posted 25 August 2014 - 3:36 AM

 

I think it would help if you explain exactly what kind of safety concerns you have?
For example...
There are some extreme Islamists out there, making headlines, but it seems she is not involved with any such group.
Women can be treated harshly sometimes in Islamic countries.. But don't forget, many women are treated terrible in the Philippines also. She may still be safer in a relatively more prosperous place.
If she is in Saudi Arabia, fitting in might not be such a bad thing. Say, if she put on a burka, she would fit in and potentially be safer than if strolling around in a miniskirt, drawing a lot of attention.
If she wants to get married, it is what it is, and you'd need to accept that regardless where she is. I don't think religion matters a whole lot in that case.
Again, maybe if you'd clarify your concern, it can be addressed.


I am not concerned, in the slightest, as to whether she will marry there. As it sits now, she does not wish to stay Muslim and has only done it to appease her boss. If, for any reason, she chose to do so, her own family would not let her take our son there, I am almost certain. However, at that point, I would fly to the Philippines to get my son.

I agree with you that she probably just wants to fit in. Personally, I wouldn't do it and they could kiss my ass. Of course, I wouldn't be going there in the first place, for any reason, certainly not to work for those people. But, she is a woman, a Filipina, and wants to go the easy route.

I just had general safety issues, due to the fact that she was an unwed mother who had converted to Islam. I know that, with so many fucked up radicals in the world and how they carry out their laws, I just didn't want to see her hurt because of converting.

I guess I was just venting, more than looking for actual advice. Either way, I hope she goes home safely, after her two years there. I hope it is enough for her to learn she doesn't want to do it again.



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Posted 25 August 2014 - 4:17 AM

Right up until they decide to stone her, or do anything else they want to her, as a "Loyal Muslim Woman". 

Why in heaven's name would they do that?
And why do you think they do not do it if she was a Christian?
No, she is more protected by law as Muslim, since she has chosen such a country, I think it is wise of her to convert. especially if she plans to stay there for many years.

For her there is no problem with being a Christian here in the Philippines when she chooses to come back. She is still a Christian here.


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Posted 25 August 2014 - 4:27 AM

If, for any reason, she chose to do so, her own family would not let her take our son there, I am almost certain.

By Philippine law, she has full custody of her son alone, she can take him out of the country when she wants. No one can deny her this today.

You however need permission from his mother and maybe from DSWD. Depending on what's in his NSO


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Posted 25 August 2014 - 4:40 AM

As you know, there are many possibilities in the the Philippines, some legitimate others less legitimate.
The problem is that most costs a lot of money, especially those less legal solutions.

 

BTW. Are you sure this is not a drama on her part?



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Posted 25 August 2014 - 6:41 AM

 

By Philippine law, she has full custody of her son alone, she can take him out of the country when she wants. No one can deny her this today.

You however need permission from his mother and maybe from DSWD. Depending on what's in his NSO

 

 

That's not true. Well, not true in my case.

 

I sent her and my son an letter last year, inviting them to come be with me in Cambodia. They still played 20 questions with her regarding it. 

 

As I have already stated in this thread, I am registered as his father on his NSO birth certificate. I am on ALL legal forms and documents prior to, up to and including his birth. I have signed sworn statements that I am his biological father. 


BTW. Are you sure this is not a drama on her part?

 

She is the most jealous bitch on this planet. That, she has earned honestly. But, she isn't into drama, otherwise. 



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Posted 25 August 2014 - 6:44 AM

Why in heaven's name would they do that?
And why do you think they do not do it if she was a Christian?
No, she is more protected by law as Muslim, since she has chosen such a country, I think it is wise of her to convert. especially if she plans to stay there for many years.

For her there is no problem with being a Christian here in the Philippines when she chooses to come back. She is still a Christian here.

 

Why do fucking Muslim radicals walk into a crowd of people and blow themselves up, Harry? Who knows. You are Muslim. You tell me. I don't know what kind of Islamic nut jobs there are in that part of the world. 

 

She plans on being there for two years, at the moment. I think she will be well ready to return home after her term as a helper there. If I know her very well, she will not wish to return.



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Posted 25 August 2014 - 6:49 AM

 

 

She is the most jealous bitch on this planet. That, she has earned honestly. But, she isn't into drama, otherwise. 

 

I thought mine was the most jealous.... I hear it's a cultural thing. Best women in the world if they can stop being so jealous!





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